Wednesday, February 06, 2008

When is a date a date?

Lately, Tim and I have been talking about a lot of things including someday buying a house, engagement rings, and how cute the kids will look if they take after me (all his commentary). All in all, we're having a great time together and thinking about the future.

The other night, I was watching the episode of Gilmore Girls where Dean surprises Rory with a three-month anniversary celebration. Tim had just come over, so I couldn't help half joke, "how come we never celebrate anniversaries like that? When is our anniversary?"

He could only shrug his shoulders. It's a topic we've discussed once or twice. The fact of the matter is, neither of us could tell you a date that we'd consider to be our anniversary. For one thing, since we've dated twice, do you count the first time around or do you start anew with the second time?

Fortunately, both dating sequences begin in June so we can at least agree on that. Tim, being the romantic and sweet guy he is, thinks back to our first date. Sadly, his computer crashed last year, so he lost all of our e-mail exchanges that he'd saved over the years.

So this morning I dug up what I could find in my e-mail account. I sent him what appears to be the e-mail from the day after the date. But when I asked Tim if this helped, he told me he was expecting an e-mail mentioning the time we met up for coffee after the group cruise (where he formed the interest to ask me out).

He says he considers this to be our first date? We agreed to meet, by e-mail, to settle accounts from the trip. How in the world would he count this as a date? He didn't even pay for my coffee. I know he had intended to, but I ordered first and he didn't stop me from paying. Shouldn't both people *know* it's a date to be considered a date?

It was during this coffee meeting that he asked if I would go to a movie with him. That's what I consider to be our first date.

We're only a few days off from each other so I suppose it doesn't matter a whole lot. Plus, Tim says it won't matter because the only thing he plans to pay attention to is the wedding anniversary. I kind of wish for now we could at least celebrate something... . Other than that, we're doing well.


teahouse said...

Glad you're doing well!

You could just pick an arbitrary date, and let that be your anniversary! Just pick a day you both like, and agree to celebrate it!

mini said...

awww, that's so cute :)

i agree with you that the movie should be counted as the first date. the coffee was just a ruse.

or, you can just pick a date in june like teahouse suggested ... so it's not specific to either which segment of dating

Anna May Won't said...

that's so great things are going well with tim.

i agree with both teahouse and mini about picking an arbitrary date. all that matters is the fact that you're celebrating, not when it happens.

Sitcomgirl said...

I would consider the movie the first date too. Clearly, we women all think the same way. But picking an arbitrary date is a good idea.

I'm struggling with our anniversary date too.