tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7198290.post116823759176632314..comments2012-03-14T20:26:25.597-07:00Comments on Searching for the Needle: Are you serious about this?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7198290.post-1168694543170887772007-01-13T05:22:00.000-08:002007-01-13T05:22:00.000-08:00My comment's not really about showing your photo.....My comment's not really about showing your photo...it's about guys who sort of force you to make first contact. I think what turned me off of online dating was that, yes, some of the guys were really shy and weren't the sorts who had the confidence to approach you in real life, but I also found that this lack of confidence translated online, as well, where I felt they should have been opening Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7198290.post-1168544466569250842007-01-11T11:41:00.000-08:002007-01-11T11:41:00.000-08:00I agree with the not sharing photo thing probably ...I agree with the not sharing photo thing probably being a limiting factor for you. Even though the program seems to make a guy click on your profile before finding out whether or not you are sharing your picture, there not being one after the click may just make the guy go to the next match on his list.<BR/><BR/>Also, if a guy asks you to share your photo, you in turn knows that he's viewed yourAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7198290.post-1168494839162136682007-01-10T21:53:00.000-08:002007-01-10T21:53:00.000-08:00from a guys perspective...first off, i think it's ...from a guys perspective...<BR/><BR/>first off, i think it's great that you're using internet dating. as a shy person, i found it to be a wonderful way too see & learn about potential dates long before you meet them.<BR/><BR/>second, i think by not showing your picture to everyone, you're limiting yourself greatly. physical appearance is the first spark of attraction and really, wouldn't you want jayfishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17372082787429678347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7198290.post-1168449471705871222007-01-10T09:17:00.000-08:002007-01-10T09:17:00.000-08:00Sure enough, this morning I find one guy who let m...Sure enough, this morning I find one guy who let me know that he's "pursuing another relationship," which is fine since he was that fireman I wasn't sure about.<BR/><BR/>I'm definitely aware that some of these guys aren't paying attention. In fact, I thought I mentioned somewhere how frustrating it is not to know if these people are actually paid subscribers. That could very well be why I have't Pandaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00889225111594518807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7198290.post-1168436264212872542007-01-10T05:37:00.000-08:002007-01-10T05:37:00.000-08:00One of the things I notice about your thinking is ...One of the things I notice about your thinking is that you are very willing to conclude that someone isn't interested enough in you. There are lots of reasons in online dating not to contact someone, even if she looks interesting. A common one, for me, is that I'm having another email conversation, or maybe two, with someone else interesting, who contacted me before. Some people write to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7198290.post-1168383001404658942007-01-09T14:50:00.000-08:002007-01-09T14:50:00.000-08:00I'm definitely familiar with how e-mail relationsh...I'm definitely familiar with how e-mail relationships die out. E-mail has become too overwhelming sometimes. I have to remind myself that it's also not as reliable as we think.<BR/><BR/>My profile is open for everyone to read, just my picture is limited. I have basic preferences - no smoking, Asian, age 31 to 42, within 50 miles of me. There are some other parameters - has kids, want to have kidsPandaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00889225111594518807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7198290.post-1168382989243703942007-01-09T14:49:00.000-08:002007-01-09T14:49:00.000-08:00when i did online dating, i got barely any respons...when i did online dating, i got barely any responses until i put up a photo. and honestly, i wouldn't even read a guy's profile who didn't have one. yes, you don't want to put too much into looks (and same for the guys courting you), but let's face it, looks/attraction do matter.zerodollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09093768792421408179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7198290.post-1168380050575741602007-01-09T14:00:00.000-08:002007-01-09T14:00:00.000-08:00the couple of times i've tried online dating, i fo...the couple of times i've tried online dating, i found it took about a month before i actually went on a date with someone. that's after a few weeks of duds, guys who don't respond to my messages, and email "relationships" that die out.<BR/><BR/>and i didn't even limit my profile as much as you're doing. i set "cupid preferences" - age range, height range, geography - but that still let in a lot Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com